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How will you get them shelter?

Assalamualaikumwarahmatullahiwabarakatuhu.
A’udhubillahiminashaitanirajeem.Bismillahirahmaniraheem.
((May the peace, mercy, and blessings of Allah be with you).
(I seek protection in Allah swt from the accursed shaitan/devil/satan).
(In the name of God, the Most Kind, the Most Merciful)).

Hello everyone. This post was sent by a sister. Please read her story, what she went through. There are many of our brothers and sisters out there, who have no shelter. We should try to help them Inshallah. Stories like this really make you think. Inshallah, make dua, that this doesn’t happen to anyone you know, Inshallah and whoever it does happen to, that some way Allah will help them Inshallah, Ameen.

Also, her story removes the misconception that homeless people are losers. She was a victim but not a loser and eventually she found her way out of poverty.

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Subject: Shelter

As salaamu alaikum,

“so how did you get out from the shelter?”

Brother, I could write a book on this whole ordeal!  It began when my ex-husband (who married me when I had three children from a previous marriage) got us evicted from not paying rent, unbeknownst to me!  He admitted to me at that time that he had also been using several kinds of drugs as well as alcohol–This was shocking for me, as I was raised Muslim and had never been around ppl using drugs or alcohol.  That’s probably why I didn’t recognize the signs earlier.

With five children now, I eventually wound up in a shelter (not sister Nadia’s).  My youngest was only a couple of months old.  I stayed there for a month, but circumstances there became difficult, and my little sister insisted I come stay with her. Ironically, I raised that little sister from the time she was 10 until she married at 20 and never dreamed I’d impose upon her like that. We stayed in her family’s two bedroom apartment for about 8 months.

When I was at the shelter, I exhausted all means looking for housing.  I was blessed to be referred to a housing program (similar to section 8, but not the same, as they help with credit and eventually with home ownership) where I was accepted and just had to wait for my name to reach the top of the list.

Working a traditional job didn’t fit, because I could not afford childcare for my two little ones (both were under 2 then). So I worked from home doing what I could (I had previously done customer service from home, but with no home of my own and with smaller kids, I couldn’t have my own phone line or a quiet place to work in the home).  I helped a lawyer prepare legal documents, I edited college papers, websites, and even a book by a college professor; I braided hair, and I even sold dinners!

Well, Alhamdulillah, my name was called, and my kids and I are now nestled in a nice, accommodating home outside of Baltimore.  I continue to do small editing jobs ( I have 2 years towards a degree, and I’m an English major) and I am thinking of returning to freelance writing.

Sister Jamila

Umm Amina

Update Feb 19th, 2010:

As salaamu alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu.

May this message reach you in the best of Iman.

We attended court from 9 am til 3:30 pm was a waiting and negotiation. Finally they have decided to dismiss the case in the Juvenile court because it is not a child abuse and abandonment case any more it is child custody at this time.

Therefore, supervised visits are no more. Her children will be with her today insha’Allah she will bring them to her home for everyone to meet them and insha’Allah we will be there also to take some pictures.

She is able to take her children once a week for 5 hours and on holidays 8 hours
while waiting to attend the child custody case. The judge decided the children will continue to stay with the grand mother just so the children can transition slowly while they wait for the next step.

JazakAllahu khayr for your duaas and contributions in assisting her.

May Allah reward you all. Ameen

Salaam

Nadia A. McIntosh


Update Feb 17th, 2010: Please make Dua for Umm Amina and children. She has to appear in court on Thursday, February 18th, 2010 and this day is the day we will find out the results if she can get her children back insha’Allah.

Thanks to generous contributions from 60+ HalfDaters for this drive:
http://halfdate.com/2010/01/12/umm-aminah-drive/

From Sister Nadia (Women Affairs of AMH Inc):

As salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu. May this message reach you in the best of Iman.

Here are some pictures of sister Umm Aminah and I and some help shopping for her home. The fifth picture is Umm Aminah and Myself (Nadia) full niqabi. Today, her social worker made a home inspection you have the pictures as well and tomorrow she goes to court to find out if she gets her children or not. Please make duaa for her and her children. I will keep you posted about the court decision. JazakAllahu Khayr for responding to our call for help and may Allah reward you and all that is involve with the smile, relief and hope that you see on her face. Ameen
salaam

Women Affairs of AMH Inc
Nadia A. McIntosh
P.O.Box 1462
Baltimore, MD 21203
www.almumtahinahhome.org
443-965-0555

“Whosoever removes a world grief from a believer,Allaah will remove
from him one of the griefs of the Day of Judgment”
(Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

From Sister UmmAmina:

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Al Hamdulilah in all circumstances, as I go through this page I can bearly see the screen because my eyes are filled with tears. May Allah reward the believers who when they are called upon to assist me with making preparations to receive my sweet darling children back, respond without hesitation or proclamation. Subhannah Allah! In Surah Al Baqarah, Ayat 177 Allah says;

“It is not righteousness that ye turn your faces towards the East or West; but it is righteousness to believe in Allah and the Last Day and the Angels and the Books and the Messengers; To spend of your substance, out of love for Him, for your kin, for the orphans, for the needy, for the wayfarer, for those who ask and for the ransom of slaves; To be steadfast in prayer and give Zakat; To fulfill the contracts which ye have made and to be firm and patient, in pain (or suffering) and adversity and throughout all periods of panic; Such are the People of Truth, the God-fearing.”

As salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu.  May this message reach you in the best of Iman.
Here are some pictures of sister Umm Aminah and I and some help shopping for her home.
the fifth picture is Umm Aminah and Myself (Nadia) full niqabi.
today, her social worker made a home inspection you have the pictures as well and tomorrow she goes to court to find out if she gets her children or not.
Please make duaa for her and her children.  I will keep you posted about the court decision.
JazakAllahu Khayr for responding to our call for help and may Allah reward you and all that is involve with the smile, relief and hope that you see on her face.  Ameen
salaam

Women Affairs of AMH Inc
Nadia A.McIntosh
P.O.Box 1462
Baltimore, MD 21203
443-965-0555