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Getting things done: Joi Ito

Getting things done is a type of influence. Read about Joichi ‘Joi’ Ito’s view of non-profit work and getting things done.

Billionaires Pledge Half Of Wealth To Charity

Forty U.S. billionaires pledged Wednesday to give at least half of their wealth to charity — either during their lifetimes or after death.

Listen/read this NPR story.

Of course in Islam, you can only give 1/3 of your wealth after you die, but you can give more if you are still alive.

Proposed Drives

Please vote for one of the following polls (when you vote, it means you will help to raise the money).

A disclaimer: HalfDate lent some money to some needy families and they can’t pay back the loans. So, in a way, you are helping us to continue HalfDate service. So, if one of these drives got selected, we will take what they owe us and give anything extra to them (if their condition still qualifies for Zakah or give to some other needy families).

Which drive you want HalfDate to run next?

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Halfdating is contagious

According to the article appeared on ScienceDaily.com (2010-03-10) “Good acts — acts of kindness, generosity and cooperation — spread just as easily as bad. And it takes only a handful of individuals to really make a difference.”

Here are some lesson learned from the article:


  • This diagram illustrates how a single act of kindness can spread between individuals and across time. Cooperative behavior spreads three degrees of separation: if Eleni increases her contribution to the public good, it benefits Lucas (one degree of separation), who gives more when paired with Erika (two degrees of separation) in period 2, who gives more when paired with Jay (three degrees of separation) in period 3, who gives more when paired with Brecken in period 4. The effects also persist over time, so that Lucas gives more when paired with Erika (period 2) and also when paired with Lysander (period 3), Bemy (period 4), Sebastian (period 5), and Nicholas (period 6). The effect also persists at two degrees of separation, as Erika not only gives more when paired with Jay (period 3), but also when paired with Harla (period 4) and James (period 5). All the paths in this illustrative cascade are supported by results in the experiments, and it is important to note that if Eleni decreases her initial contribution then her uncooperative behavior can spread and persist as well. (Credit: Courtesy James Fowler, UC San Diego)

  • The effect persists, Fowler said: “You don’t go back to being your ‘old selfish self.”’ As a result, the money a person gives in the first round of the experiment is ultimately tripled by others who are subsequently (directly or indirectly) influenced to give more. “The network functions like a matching grant,” Christakis said.

  • Groups with altruists in them will be more altruistic as a whole and more likely to survive than selfish groups

DriveFruit: Warm Winter Fruit 3/3

This is the result of Warm Winter DateDrive.

Alhamduillah, was seemed to be impossible, now it’s accomplished. All thanks and praise are due to Allah.

May Allah reward all those who helped and may Allah thank you for your efforts.

As salaamu alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu.

In the Name of Allah The Most Gracious, The Most Beneficent

AlhamdulliAllah Rabil Alamin. We have reached our goal. Again we cannot express our gratitude with words of how we are thankful of your support. We pray to Allah SubhaanAllah wa ta’Allah that each and everyday that we are making progress each and every nail, sweat, purchases, and payment to the workers to complete the renovation of the home and when completed that Allah, He The Almighty Sovereign Lord give you all the good of this life and the hereafter and expiate one of your sins for each day a family is housed and assisted because of your Duaas and support.

Ameen Make Duaa that another home from another city, state, country is build or set up for helping homeless families or homeless women or men insha’Allah.

There are other problems in our community such as substance Abuse, Alcolhol,Mental Health, and Domestic violence. This is something we face each and everday operating a shelter for those in need in our community it is reality that the community at large have to accept and do something about it insha’Allah Again JazakAllahu Khayr for everything.

Should you still want to make a contribution on a monthly bases please visit our website at http://www.almumtahinahhome.org/ and place you donations online or you can mail in your contributions.

Nadia Auxila McIntosh

The Story Of Your $3 Contribution

Alhamduillah with HalfDate your $3 can do wonders! How?

Because each month we focus on one project, and you pool your half a date (small contribution) with others until the amount is enough to accomplish the project of that month.

But that’s not it.

With HalfDate, your $3 can thrive and grow. How?

Let’s take the Dawah DVD Drive as an example.

  • You give $3 to the DeenShow.
  • They make a DVD and gave it to HalfDate.
  • HalfDate gives it to a masjid that has needy families.
  • The masjid sells it at $5.
  • Now your DVD is out there (hopefully doing Dawah on your behalf).
  • The needy family gets $2 (a masjid can sell 100 DVDs after a Jummah so $200).
  • The DeenShow gets back $3 of the DVD cost.
  • Now, the DeenShow uses the $3 and sends a new DVD to another masjid that needs to buy a property.
  • The masjid sells the DVD for $10.
  • Again, your DVD is out there (hopefully doing Dawah on your behalf).
  • The masjid gets $7.
  • The DeenShow gets $3 back and the cycle goes on.

So your $3 + HalfDate + DeenShow + Masjid/School = Dawah, service, more DVDs and more importantly rewards from Allah (inshaAllah).

Want to do Sadaqah in a creative way?

Go to HalfDate.com.

What do you think? Post a comment and share your thoughts.

If your masjid or school wants to participate in this project, contact us.


DriveFruit: Warm Winter Fruit 2/3

This is the result of Warm Winter DateDrive.

The following is an email from Sister Nadia of Women Affairs of AMH, Inc regarding this family.

As salaamu alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu.

May this message reach you in the best of Iman. We have taken the remaining balance of the donations to her and took pictures of her and her children Boy 5 months and Girl 2 or 3 years?

Her husband was in school at ITT Tech and he is doing fine we believe he won an honored scholarship from ITT and they are making sure that he finds a good job insha’Allah (God willing).

Sister Jasirah is very grateful and expressed the negative she had gone through with the Ummah locally when seeking assistance. We had to reassure her, not everyone is negative and what everyone has done for you with the help of Allah is what we as Muslims do for one another.

This is our duty for one another. So have no worries pray, do the best you can, be the best Muslimah that you can be and be patient and all kind of doors will be open for you and your family. Allah has just given you a sign when you thought you had no help.

She did call and left a message insha’Allah you had received it.

Salaam.

Nadia A.McIntosh

Voice Message from Sister Jasirah:

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(Sister Jasirah With Her Children)

Backstory: Who is Abu Samah?

Some of you wondered who was the Brother Abu Samah mentioned in DateDrive: Warm Winter in Memory of Abu Samah..

Well, Abu Samah (the father of Samah) is Brother Sayed/Raymond Johnson, a revert brother who passed away on Tuesday Jan 26, 2010 in Arizona, USA.

SubhanaAllah, it was unbelievable (in the west) to be able to follow the Sunnah and complete the burial within the same day. All the hospice staff said that it was impossible, but Allah has made it easy for Sayed and his family. Many Muslims attended the Janaza prayer and funeral on a short notice, Alhamduillah.

According to his family, Sayed passed away after saying the Shahadah, Alhamduillah.

Sister Samah:

“It was in the morning
I woke up to get ready for work
and mama was reading Surat Yaseen* with him
and I went to tell him good morning
and gave him hug
and we tell him Shahada always after we tell him everything so that its the last thing he says
and then I went to pray sub7 [Fajr]
and then when i was doing Shahada
I heard mama saying inna lilah wa inna elyh raje3un
and i finished n went to see him and he was not breathing anymore

everything went so easily mashA’allah
and with me at home
I was supposed to leave to work in like 20 mins.”

HalfDate didn’t inform Samah that we were going to mention her dad in the drive, because usually HalfDate volunteers don’t like to be acknowledged.

Sister Samah:

“wait
WAIT
abu samah my dad!!!
how
when
HOW
abu samah is my dad
wow
am speechless
jazakum allahu khyran.”

She appreciates all the your duaa for her dad.

On behalf of Abu Samah’s family, HalfDate would like to thank all of you for your kindness and support for your HalfDate family members.

And on behalf of all HalfDaters, we ask Allah the most high (Subhanahu wa taa’ala) to forgive Brother Sayed/Raymond Johnson and grant him the sweetest date in Jannah. Ameen.



*Editor’s Note: according to some scholars, the meanings of Yaseen is suitable to be read for someone who is expected to pass away.

Leave Them To A Non-Muslim Shelter?

Update: From Sister Nadia (Women’s Affairs of AMH, Inc) regarding this family.

In the Name of Allah The Most Gracious, The Most Beneficent.

One of the families called to let us know that they have seek refuge at a non Muslim shelter that took the whole family. And they where calling to make sure that we knew that they are fine and together and wanted to know how we are getting along with the weather.

She had mentioned that her husband car had gotten vandalized and the car is totaled and because she has multiple sclerosis she cannot move around too much and that is why they had the car.

We know where she is located and it is very far we have diapers for her children and with the assistance of Allah and then you the Ummah we can succeed in assisting them.

We are feeling that we are asking too much of the Ummah. However, should you find a way to assist for the sister and her family, we will appreciate it.

We will be calling her this evening and insha’Allah depending what donations sent to the Women Affairs we will ask her husband to take the bus up here that is if he has the means and pick up the diapers and the little funds so they can move around for a little while.

We feel so helpless because the Women Affairs van is not workable we are in need to have it repaired.

Because we know Allah subhaanah wa ta’Allah never brake his promise to us He always come to our rescue eventually. Surah: 2:274.

Salaam

Nadia A.McIntosh
Women Affairs of AMH Inc


Click here to help the shelter project.

House Party Items

In May 2010, inshaAllah, HalfDate in collaboration with global partners are going to launch a worldwide open house for Islam. It’s going to feature activities like screening DVDs or playing games like Kalimaat.

More info will be posted.

So, one of our partners is theDeenShow.com and they are providing DVDs at cost for this worldwide open house event. If you want to order your DVDs, click the button below (all proceeds go to support family owned business who are helping us to ship these orders).

If you want to order to outside US, Canada, UK, and Australia. Please pay an extra $15. The brother that ship these items for you are doing it for free. It doesn’t cover his effort and post office trip.

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