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Halfdating is contagious

According to the article appeared on ScienceDaily.com (2010-03-10) “Good acts — acts of kindness, generosity and cooperation — spread just as easily as bad. And it takes only a handful of individuals to really make a difference.”

Here are some lesson learned from the article:


  • This diagram illustrates how a single act of kindness can spread between individuals and across time. Cooperative behavior spreads three degrees of separation: if Eleni increases her contribution to the public good, it benefits Lucas (one degree of separation), who gives more when paired with Erika (two degrees of separation) in period 2, who gives more when paired with Jay (three degrees of separation) in period 3, who gives more when paired with Brecken in period 4. The effects also persist over time, so that Lucas gives more when paired with Erika (period 2) and also when paired with Lysander (period 3), Bemy (period 4), Sebastian (period 5), and Nicholas (period 6). The effect also persists at two degrees of separation, as Erika not only gives more when paired with Jay (period 3), but also when paired with Harla (period 4) and James (period 5). All the paths in this illustrative cascade are supported by results in the experiments, and it is important to note that if Eleni decreases her initial contribution then her uncooperative behavior can spread and persist as well. (Credit: Courtesy James Fowler, UC San Diego)

  • The effect persists, Fowler said: “You don’t go back to being your ‘old selfish self.”’ As a result, the money a person gives in the first round of the experiment is ultimately tripled by others who are subsequently (directly or indirectly) influenced to give more. “The network functions like a matching grant,” Christakis said.

  • Groups with altruists in them will be more altruistic as a whole and more likely to survive than selfish groups

Bipolar Husband & Needy Family

Sometimes we get urgent requests like this.

As salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu…I am Sister R**** of Laurel, Maryland and I am married with 5 children and my husband has been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and is without therapy and without medication and often goes into sparatic rages causing myself and the children to leave the house abruptly or call the authorities due to him being out of control and causing us emotional and physical harm. When he is in this state his awareness or concern for our wellbeing and finances is non-existent. So this time the police had to be called and our rent is past due $1400 and the landlord is calling and the internet bill is due to be cut off on March 15, 2010 and we use that for homeschooling and that is about $184.00. I have food stamps currently so I am not in need of food alhamdulillah but the state does not give me cash assistance and I was not a working woman outside of the home, I only worked inside taking care of my home and children maashaa allah. Sister Nadia MacIntosh referred me to this resource and I am praying that you are able to assist me as soon as possible inshaa allah ta ala.

That’s why we will create a rainy day fund.

We keep getting more requests than we can feature on a monthly DateDrive.

Care for Natives

So, we got this email from a Native brother and we are interested to help them.

As-salaamu alaykum wa rahmatullah.

My cousin is a board member of the Black Hills Pow-Wow committe which holds an annual pow-wow in Rapid City in October. They honor the native american youth by having a youth day during this weekend event. I am providing you the website for you to look at. I am eager to make something happen for the native american youth in this area. The Pow-wow is the largest gathering for native peoples here in South Dakota and is held during Columbus Day weekend to observe Native American Day.

South Dakota is the only state in the union that recognizes Native American Day rather than Columbus Day in honor of past efforts to estabish reconciliation between the Lakota tribes and the State so the pow-wow is held during this weekend and is attended by many people from from across the state as well as across the nation (indians and non-indians). Please take the time to check out the events held during the pow-wow weekend and let me know what you think about this insha Allah.

http://www.blackhillspowwow.com/youthday.html – you can click on any of the images to see and gather information.

Louis B

Dawah Event in Iowa City

We use this blog to list some smaller or urgent drives.

Muslim students in University of Iowa (Iowa City) is organizing Islamic Spring Retreat 2010, and they are short in money.

By the way, HalfDate requested to speak at this event and they turned us down (LOL), because their schedule was full. However, they will be helping to spread the word about HalfDate and the Deen Show DVD project.

The event is March 12th weekend. Please HELP NOW!!!