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Umm Amina

Update Feb 19th, 2010:

As salaamu alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu.

May this message reach you in the best of Iman.

We attended court from 9 am til 3:30 pm was a waiting and negotiation. Finally they have decided to dismiss the case in the Juvenile court because it is not a child abuse and abandonment case any more it is child custody at this time.

Therefore, supervised visits are no more. Her children will be with her today insha’Allah she will bring them to her home for everyone to meet them and insha’Allah we will be there also to take some pictures.

She is able to take her children once a week for 5 hours and on holidays 8 hours
while waiting to attend the child custody case. The judge decided the children will continue to stay with the grand mother just so the children can transition slowly while they wait for the next step.

JazakAllahu khayr for your duaas and contributions in assisting her.

May Allah reward you all. Ameen

Salaam

Nadia A. McIntosh


Update Feb 17th, 2010: Please make Dua for Umm Amina and children. She has to appear in court on Thursday, February 18th, 2010 and this day is the day we will find out the results if she can get her children back insha’Allah.

Thanks to generous contributions from 60+ HalfDaters for this drive:
http://halfdate.com/2010/01/12/umm-aminah-drive/

From Sister Nadia (Women Affairs of AMH Inc):

As salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu. May this message reach you in the best of Iman.

Here are some pictures of sister Umm Aminah and I and some help shopping for her home. The fifth picture is Umm Aminah and Myself (Nadia) full niqabi. Today, her social worker made a home inspection you have the pictures as well and tomorrow she goes to court to find out if she gets her children or not. Please make duaa for her and her children. I will keep you posted about the court decision. JazakAllahu Khayr for responding to our call for help and may Allah reward you and all that is involve with the smile, relief and hope that you see on her face. Ameen
salaam

Women Affairs of AMH Inc
Nadia A. McIntosh
P.O.Box 1462
Baltimore, MD 21203
www.almumtahinahhome.org
443-965-0555

“Whosoever removes a world grief from a believer,Allaah will remove
from him one of the griefs of the Day of Judgment”
(Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

From Sister UmmAmina:

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Al Hamdulilah in all circumstances, as I go through this page I can bearly see the screen because my eyes are filled with tears. May Allah reward the believers who when they are called upon to assist me with making preparations to receive my sweet darling children back, respond without hesitation or proclamation. Subhannah Allah! In Surah Al Baqarah, Ayat 177 Allah says;

“It is not righteousness that ye turn your faces towards the East or West; but it is righteousness to believe in Allah and the Last Day and the Angels and the Books and the Messengers; To spend of your substance, out of love for Him, for your kin, for the orphans, for the needy, for the wayfarer, for those who ask and for the ransom of slaves; To be steadfast in prayer and give Zakat; To fulfill the contracts which ye have made and to be firm and patient, in pain (or suffering) and adversity and throughout all periods of panic; Such are the People of Truth, the God-fearing.”

As salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu.  May this message reach you in the best of Iman.
Here are some pictures of sister Umm Aminah and I and some help shopping for her home.
the fifth picture is Umm Aminah and Myself (Nadia) full niqabi.
today, her social worker made a home inspection you have the pictures as well and tomorrow she goes to court to find out if she gets her children or not.
Please make duaa for her and her children.  I will keep you posted about the court decision.
JazakAllahu Khayr for responding to our call for help and may Allah reward you and all that is involve with the smile, relief and hope that you see on her face.  Ameen
salaam

Women Affairs of AMH Inc
Nadia A.McIntosh
P.O.Box 1462
Baltimore, MD 21203
443-965-0555

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Giving a big chunk of it away

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The logic of giving

Usually in life, the reason you do something is either to get pleasure or to avoid pain. So, let’s see how Qur’an presents the pleasure and pain associated with giving or not giving Sadaqah.


FIRST: ATTAIN PLEASURE FROM GIVING

قُلْ إِنَّ رَبِّي يَبْسُطُ الرِّزْقَ لِمَن يَشَاء مِنْ عِبَادِهِ وَيَقْدِرُ لَهُ وَمَا أَنفَقْتُم مِّن شَيْءٍ فَهُوَ يُخْلِفُهُ وَهُوَ خَيْرُ الرَّازِقِينَ
Say: “Truly, my Lord enlarges the provision for whom He wills of His slaves, and (also) restricts (it) for him, and whatsoever you spend of anything (in Allâh’s Cause), He will replace it. And He is the Best of providers.” (Saba’ 34:39)
First Allah gave you the money so you can give for His sake. Now, after you give out for His sake, he replaces it for you with a gain. So, basically, it’s free Hasanat (rewards).

SECOND PAIN: AVOID PAIN OF NOT GIVING


هَاأَنتُمْ هَؤُلَاء تُدْعَوْنَ لِتُنفِقُوا فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ فَمِنكُم مَّن يَبْخَلُ وَمَن يَبْخَلْ فَإِنَّمَا يَبْخَلُ عَن نَّفْسِهِ وَاللَّهُ الْغَنِيُّ وَأَنتُمُ الْفُقَرَاء وَإِن تَتَوَلَّوْا يَسْتَبْدِلْ قَوْمًا غَيْرَكُمْ ثُمَّ لَا يَكُونُوا أَمْثَالَكُمْ

Behold! You are those who are called to spend in the Cause of Allâh, Yet among you are some who are niggardly. And whoever is niggardly, it is only at the expense of his own self. But Allâh is Rich (Free of all wants), and you (mankind) are poor. And if you turn away (from Islâm and the obedience of Allâh), He will exchange you for some other people, and they will not be your likes. (Muhammad 47:38)

So, say Allah gives you and another person, and now he asks both of you to give back, but only one of you respond to his call. So, in human short-sighted logic, the one who doesn’t give saves the money and the one who gives loses, right? But no! The one who doesn’t give is in reality on the brink of being FIRED (exchanged). So, even if there is no reward or pleasure associated with giving, simply the pain is severe enough to avoid it at all cost.

Conclusion, whether you operate under the logic of attaining pleasure or the logic of avoid pain. In both cases, giving Sadaqah is really a no brainer.

This post was originally submitted to MissionRamadan of 1429, a project run by http://productivemuslim.com

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